I think the basic premise that a mother has a different relationship with a newborn than a father is not some thing that our society accepts. Similarly, it’s not politically correct to say that an adoptive mother’s relationship with her newborn is any different than a biological mother’s.
I remember when our second child died at the age of 2 months, how fundamentally different my experience was compared to my husband’s. I lost a baby that I carried for nine months inside my body and nourished with my body for another 2 months. Stopping breast-feeding so abruptly meant my body was going through huge sudden shifts hormonally. Our sons, death was hard for my husband as well, but his body wasn’t going through the same physical processes
I think the basic premise that a mother has a different relationship with a newborn than a father is not some thing that our society accepts. Similarly, it’s not politically correct to say that an adoptive mother’s relationship with her newborn is any different than a biological mother’s.
I remember when our second child died at the age of 2 months, how fundamentally different my experience was compared to my husband’s. I lost a baby that I carried for nine months inside my body and nourished with my body for another 2 months. Stopping breast-feeding so abruptly meant my body was going through huge sudden shifts hormonally. Our sons, death was hard for my husband as well, but his body wasn’t going through the same physical processes
Bethany I appreciate your comments on these topics so much.